Tuesday, November 12, 2013

And the verdict is.....

   We're having a boy AND a girl!!  I had an ultrasound on Monday with Dr. KK.  While we knew that baby B is a boy, baby A was the mystery.  Until Monday.  Nadia, my favorite ultrasound person, was able to get a good view of baby A from below.  She told me that at this point, she usually sees something there if it's a boy (and showed me where to look).  She didn't see anything, so it's a girl!  I can't believe that we're having a son and daughter! 
   Other than that, the appointment went well.  We drew labs, and hopefully will get to stop the progesterone this time.  I'll also be off the prednisone and metformin this Friday.  It's strange to transition to being more "normal" although I doubt I'll ever see myself as such.  I do, unfortunately, have a new pain.  It seems like it's my pubic bone itself.  I'm guessing the pregnancy hormones are kicking in to get my pelvis ready for delivery (in 18ish more weeks), but this really hurts. 
  I also had it confirmed during my ultrasound that those wierd, jabby feelings I've been having is, in fact, the babies moving!  I kind of felt like an idiot for not thinking it sooner, but with the anterior placentas, I thought I'd feel it later than this.  All in all, not a bad week so far.

Saturday, November 9, 2013

18w1d

  That's right folks, I'm 18w1d.  I don't think I need to tell you how bad I suck at updating this thing.  Lately though, I've just been so tired and blogging seems to always lose on my list of to dos.  As a quick update, I can say that since we announced, we found out that baby B is a boy!!  Baby A wasn't cooperating for the ultrasound.  My mother in law thinks the baby is a girl and she is being modest.  Hopefully we'll see on my next ultrasound on Monday.  I still see Dr. Kwak-Kim every 2 weeks, and the OB is at every 4.  I don't see the OB again until 12/5 for our anatomy scan. 
   I know I said earlier that I have been very tired.  That is an understatement.  I could sleep all the time.  But the problem is that I can't turn off my brain, or get comfortable.  My hips hurt a lot, as does my tailbone.  From everything I've seen, this is normal, but it's been quite the adjustment.  My nausea has also returned over the past few days.  Honestly, I wish I could've called into work today but calling in on a weekend means I need to make it up the next weekend.  So that won't be happening unless I'm dying.
    On the meds front, I am finally getting to wean off the prednisone.  I should be done with it by the middle of next week as well as the metformin.  I'm thrilled about that.  Hopefully next we can get rid of the progesterone.  I'm still on 200mg daily of that.  I also still take synthroid, calcium, vitamin D, Vitamin E, metanx, fish oil, and a prenatal vitamin.  My lovenox has been every other day and my bloodflow has been in the 0.38-0.39 range (they want it to be less than 0.5).  Dr. KK added an antibiotic for an unsymptomatic UTI, which quite possibly could be why I feel so sick. 
   I suppose the biggest issue I'm facing (aside from worrying about every single thing) is dealing with my mom.  It's no secret she and I have had a strained relationship since my dad died.  After the way she treated me during IVF#2, I said I was going to keep her out of my buisness.  Well, from the moment she knew we were pregnant, she has talked about a shower.  I told her that I would really prefer having one combined shower, as I am afraid I'll end up on bedrest, or worse that the babies will come early.  The talks pretty much stopped after that.  My mother in law happened to offer to throw one last weekend while were at a family party.  I graciously accepted but asked if it would be possible to combine them and that I'm sure my mom would love to help.  My mother in law was thrilled!  I told my mom the next day what had transpired, and that my mother in law wanted to host it at her house, which is an hour north of where my mom lives.  Almost immediately, my mom had issues and tried to talk me into having 2, but said she'd do what I want.  I tried to stand my ground and said I wanted one and she said ok.
   Fast forward to yesterday, my mother in law called me to talk about the shower.  Apparently my mom had called her and made it seem that she really wanted to do something for me, but made up a bunch of excuses about her house being too small etc.  Somehow the conversation progressed and my mother in law was telling me that she's afraid of stepping on peoples' toes and that her feelings were getting a little hurt.  So I caved and told her that maybe it'd be better to seperate the 2 showers.  She agreed to do whatever I wanted, and at this point, I don't want my mom making my MIL feel bad. 
  After I got off the phone with her, I informed my mom what had happened and she tried to play innocent stating my MIL must have misunderstood her.  I don't think I really believe her considering one of my aunts facebooked me in the morning to offer to throw me a shower.  I think my mom has been plotting to get her way.  But after all that nonsense, she still wants to be invited to the party at my MILs house and thinks she can ride with us.  Um no.  I'm so tired of her pulling crap to get her way and not thinking about others concerns.  It is what it is at this point.  Hopefully my body and these babies will cooperate and get us through the parties in January. 

I'm just so disappointed that my mom can't be the mom I want/need her to be.